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I really enjoyed this piece because it forced me to stop and think instead of just reacting.

I love this country. I genuinely do. But no country in the history of the world has ever stood around chanting, “We’re number two!” Every country wants to believe they’re the greatest. That’s human nature. The question is whether we’re willing to honestly measure ourselves against everyone else instead of simply repeating the slogan.

To me, patriotism isn’t pretending we’re perfect. Patriotism is loving your country enough to admit where we’re falling short because that’s the only way you ever get better.

What discourages me the most isn’t even where we rank on various lists. It’s the way we’ve chosen to treat each other.

People love to point at communism as the great evil, but capitalism has its own blind spots too. Every economic system eventually seems to favor the few over the many if left unchecked.

Take Walmart as an example. For years there were reports of companies taking life insurance policies out on employees while simultaneously keeping many of those same employees below full-time status so they wouldn’t qualify for health insurance or benefits. If someone got sick, the burden shifted to taxpayers, hospitals, and families. If they died, in some cases the company benefited financially through insurance policies while the family was left with crushing medical debt.

Whether every detail of every case is identical isn’t really my point. The point is this. Somewhere along the way we built systems that often reward corporations more than the people doing the work. That should bother all of us.

Then I look at Norway.

When Norway discovered oil, they made a decision. They invested that wealth back into their people. They built a sovereign wealth fund that benefits future generations. They made sure people don’t spend their lives wondering how they’ll afford college, whether breaking an ankle will bankrupt them, how they’ll survive retirement, or whether having a baby will leave them buried in debt.

Do Norwegians all drive Ferraris? No.

Do they all live in mansions? No.

But they have something that, to me, seems far more valuable. They have peace of mind. They have security. They have dignity.

Meanwhile, we’ve spent decades convincing ourselves that if we simply give more and more power to corporations, eventually everyone else will benefit. Sometimes that happens. Sometimes it doesn’t. Looking around today, I think it’s fair to ask whether the balance has tipped too far.

I also think America sometimes forgets just how young we are.

There are families in Europe living in homes older than our country. There are little girls having tea parties in buildings that have stood longer than the United States has existed.

We’re still a very young nation trying to figure ourselves out.

Our history wasn’t clean. It wasn’t noble from beginning to end. It includes slavery, the destruction and displacement of Indigenous peoples, disease, injustice, and countless mistakes.

Loving America doesn’t require pretending those things didn’t happen.

It requires acknowledging them, learning from them, and choosing to do better.

Sometimes I think America is like an incredibly talented teenager.

Confident.

Brilliant.

Capable of amazing things.

Also stubborn.

Convinced nobody can tell us anything.

Rolling our eyes whenever another country points out something we’re doing poorly.

There’s an old saying that ignorance is bliss. I think arrogance and ignorance often travel together. We don’t know what we don’t know.

Every generation believes they’re living through the worst political moment in history. I don’t know that we’re unique. History tends to move in cycles. The pendulum swings too far one direction, then too far the other, and every once in a while it briefly passes through something resembling normal.

The difference today is speed.

A hundred years ago misinformation moved as fast as a horse or a newspaper.

Now it circles the globe in seconds.

People form opinions from headlines they never read beyond. Algorithms reward outrage over understanding. Division spreads faster than facts because anger gets clicks.

So what do we do?

Honestly, I think we stop obsessing over everyone else’s backyard and start cleaning up our own.

Turn off the television.

Put down the phone.

Step away from social media.

Sit quietly with your own thoughts for a little while.

Ask yourself difficult questions.

If you’re a Christian, are the politics you support actually reflecting the Jesus you say you follow?

If you’re angry, why?

If you’re wrong, can you admit it?

Can you forgive yourself for making mistakes without doubling down simply because your pride won’t let you change?

That’s the muscle I think we’ve lost.

Introspection.

Every night when I lay my head on the pillow, I don’t want to ask whether I defeated someone online or won another political argument.

I want to ask one question.

Did I make decisions today that aligned with the person I want to be?

If the answer is no, tomorrow is another opportunity.

Forgive yourself.

Own your mistakes.

Adjust.

Grow.

Imagine what this country could become if millions of us did that instead of spending every waking hour blaming everyone else.

I don’t think we’re going to heal ourselves through more outrage, more finger pointing, or more performative anger online.

Whatever we’re doing right now clearly isn’t working.

Maybe the answer isn’t louder voices.

Maybe it’s quieter moments.

Fix your own backyard.

Learn to forgive yourself.

Be kind to yourself.

Because people who extend grace to themselves usually find it much easier to extend grace to other people.

And maybe that’s how countries heal too.

Not all at once.

One honest person at a time.

Pamela Vitale's avatar

Certainly not anymore ugh it’s so depressing.

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